REMINDER: Rude Behavior - Steven J. Coker
Subject: REMINDER: Rude Behavior
From: Steven J. Coker
Date: September 24, 1999

Deborah Aldridge wrote:
> Don't worry, I won't post to this list anymore at all.  I have never run
> across such viperous, hateful people....

AN OPEN LETTER TO DEBORAH AND THE SCROOTS FORUM
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Dear Deborah,

On behalf of the SCRoots Forum, I apologize to you for any rude or unfriendly
behavior exhibited by participants of the forum.  

It is against the SCRoots Forum policy to be rude to forum members.  Anyone who
behaves rudely should calm down and apologize.  This is only email folks, don't
take it too seriously.  

It is against policy for anyone but the Forum Manager to police the forum.  The
forum policy statements and the taglines instruct subscribers to send any
complaints, comments, suggestions, etc., to the Forum Manager, not to other
subscribers or the forum.  

I appreciate "old-timers" who have been with the forum for a long time stepping
in to help guide others with any problems they may have.  Especially, when I get
busy or am traveling and the forum seems to lack management.  But, at all times
when writing to other forum participants, we should be friendly, courteous, and
respectful of each others feelings.  Insults and hostility are not acceptable.

Here is a simplified synopsis of the policy statements.  The full policy
statements simply explain these and give examples.

 #1. Don't be annoying or be easily annoyed.
 #2. Don't send SPAM or things like it.
 #3. Don't quote excessively. 
 #4. Keep your posts on topic.
 #5. Do not send file attachments to the list. 
 #6. Be considerate of others. 
 #7. Check your PC clock settings.
 #8. Use of the forum for any illegal activity is unacceptable. 
 #9. Use of the forum is a privilege and may be revoked at any time.
#10. This is a public forum. You are the publisher. No censorship.
#11. Respect people's feelings and their right to privacy. 
#12. Policy is subject to change.

Everyone has bad moments.  Most have bad days.  Many have bad weeks.  A lot have
bad months.  Some have bad years.  And a few have bad lives.  When you find
yourself having a bad moment, day, week, etc., that is NOT a good time to send
email.  It is too easy to offend others when you are in a bad mood yourself. 
The time to write email is when you feel happy and are smiling.

I've learned this lesson from experience.  I've written email myself when I
wasn't in a good mood and found I've offended others or over-reacted in ways
that I would not have normally.  If I wasn't the manager, I would have suspended
me for 30 days for some of the stuff I wrote while in a bad mood.  At least when
I realized the hostile tone of my missives I apologized to those who I offended
and sought their forgiveness.

Again, I'm sorry if someone in our forum was rude to you.  If it ever happens
again, please forward the rude message to me.  Rude behavior to other forum
members is cause for suspension or removal from the forum.  

Steven J. Coker
Forum Manager

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